Our 11th dominatrix interview isn’t actually with a dominatrix at all. We’ll let Miss Haldane of Worcestershire explain…
I don’t describe myself as a Dominatrix – I am a disciplinarian first and foremost, and to some of my subs, a Dominant. I don’t think there was ever a ‘becoming’. It is a part of me; a natural extension and an expression of who I am. While I have been involved in D/s in my personal life for a number of years, it was last year that an opportunity presented itself for me to become self-employed and to manage my own work schedule. I realised I could take that opportunity to offer my services as a disciplinarian and Dominant professionally, which was something I’d been interested in doing for some time. It provides some really juicy variety to my working week – I love it.
I offer sessions on Mondays predominantly, from a domestic venue in Worcestershire, and a commercial venue in the West Midlands.
Hm. Good question! I should probably let my subs and spankees answer this one, but in their absence I’d describe my style as fairly intense generally – the specifics of that vary between sessions though. I can be quite serious and stern and I enjoy reaching some real emotional depth with those I see. I adore the psychological aspects of play and I never simply dispense a beating – there is always a deeper, more intense element to it. Having said that there is often some levity in my sessions and I enjoy laughing either at or with my bottoms, depending on the circumstances!
Corporal punishment is my absolute favourite (as a disciplinarian it would be somewhat odd if that wasn’t top of the list…), but depending on the dynamic I can and do enjoy a range of other activities too, within very well-defined limits.
I dress professionally predominantly – a shirt, skirt and heels are my usual attire. For those wanting something less formal, and on days that I fancy it, I will dress down into jeans and a top.
Not immediately, no. I have made bespoke arrangements with a few of my regular bottoms who seek remote contact outside of in-person sessions. This can vary from phone calls, to emails, to setting of tasks or punishments. It’s something I’m happy to provide once I’ve got to know someone in person; this kind of discipline is in my opinion only effective once a dynamic has been established in person. Knowing how someone ticks is key to providing effective domination from afar.
I expect those pursuing real life goals to demonstrate real application, and I expect to see them making progress. Their life is not a game, as much as we ‘play’; I invest my effort and time into providing discipline and motivation, and I expect that to be re-paid via evidence of dedication to working towards our agreed goals, and progress against the targets we set.
As a general rule I don’t take kindly to laziness or disrespect. Those I agree to see on an ongoing basis tend to be thoughtful, proactive, independent and open-minded. I can’t deny it – I like a little spirit too!
My sessions are each special in their own way; I wouldn’t like to choose between any as a favourite. I think there is always a moment in the development of a dynamic where a connection is made – be that a shared understanding in a look, a sense of connectedness in silence, or the breaking down of walls during a beating. These moments are special and memorable in each relationship.
I could tell you about my own…? It’s www.misshaldane.com.
Via my website, where potential clients can find out how I expect to be approached – my website includes details of my contact email address.
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